27 Feb, 2020
2020-2-27 11:45:10 PM UTC
If you have facebook and are in the associated group, you may have seen this, though there may be some here who don't have facebook, so:
One thing I'm curious about for others is this: parenting.
My wife and I are currently trying for our first, and I admit I have a bit of OCD when it comes to keeping my stuff in good shape.
I know there are probably a few of you here who have families, have had kids (possibly grand kids!) so I'm curious how YOU kept your stuff in good shape when they were younger??
I'd like to be prepared ahead of time, as much as possible (without worrying) mentally and in regards to the physical items (planning to get new shelves, etc), well before he (or she) arrives.
Thanks!
27 Feb, 2020
2020-2-27 11:58:32 PM UTC
Just emerging from the highest risk zone now (youngest turned eight in January).
Really, the toddler years are likely the biggest issue. Anything really worth much should just be out of reach - either in a room the kid doesn't play in, behind bookshelf doors (I used Ikea Billy shelves with doors for a long time) or just up on higher shelves. Anything they manage to reach and play with is not a child behavioral failure, so just be prepared that they will get somewhere you didn't want them to, and remember that everything in your collection is nothing compared to your child and how you love them. ?
28 Feb, 2020
2020-2-28 2:35:01 AM UTC
Well put, and I agree! However.... "please don't let anything happen to that out-of-print edition....!"
28 Feb, 2020
2020-2-28 9:36:21 AM UTC
I have zip-ties on my glass-fronted book cases so they can't be opened. Other than that, anything of value / easily damaged is out of reach or in rooms the boy doesn't have access to.
Your children *are* going to bash things -- so the best thing you can do is have things that are very durable. Most of my furniture is recycled timber (primarily from Oxford University). When your table-tops are 3 inches thick and made from old timber with lots of existing patina, there is a limit to how much damage a toddler can do. That was pure luck that I like rustic furniture, mind -- not a matter of planning.
If you are repainting, use washable high quality paint. My boy isn't at the point where he is really scratching up walls, but the time will come. I'm also not bothering to replace any carpet. It is mid-life, but I'll just tear it all out and put wooden flooring in when he is a bit older.
28 Feb, 2020
2020-2-28 2:16:25 PM UTC
I quite like the bookshelf doors idea. It was something I was considering once it's time to change our furniture arrangement. I've never owned a set from anyone - with doors, that is - I don't mean to sound over paranoid; however did you guys put any locks or anything on them, or are they tricky enough for a little one to open? )during the toddler years, was thinking of having those white locks on them, that usually go on the handles of kitchen cabinets)
Thanks for your all your feedback - I want to be a good parent, yet also keep my stuff in good order :)
28 Feb, 2020
2020-2-28 4:34:53 PM UTC
Yes, I do recall using the "baby cabinet locks" on the bookshelf doors for a couple of years, it definitely helped.
Mostly, "out of sight, out of mind" is best, however you can manage that given your home layout and budget.
And as an aside, visitors/relatives who think "ooooh, that looks beautiful" and pick things up are just as problematic as toddlers, and harder to keep out of the collection. ? No system is perfect, expect some wear and tear (and keep books out of direct sunlight! That'll do more damage than a toddler ever could).
28 Feb, 2020
2020-2-28 5:40:00 PM UTC
For sure :) And I've been consistently good with that, after discovering that some of my books turned from white to brown/yellow for the sun - they're still intact and fine structurally, but yes, even now my stuff is out of sunlight.
For the new arrangements, where I'm intending to put them shouldn't have much, if any, sun in the room itself; much less WHERE in the room the books will be kept the sun shouldn't reach.
29 Feb, 2020
2020-2-29 4:19:25 AM UTC
I'll be getting a dehumidifier for that room :D Thinking of vinyl, laminate, engineered hardwood, or tile for the floor. Those are the types that would 'work' with the area. Maybe a rug, as well - one of those woven ones w/ a Silmarillion-esque pattern on it :P And I'm looking at, and liking, those Billy + Oxberg shelves....And I'll use those 'baby-proof, under the kitchen sink' cabinet clasp locks once he/she hits The Toddler Years.
29 Feb, 2020
2020-2-29 5:22:08 AM UTC
My baby boy took his first unassisted (by human or furniture) steps this afternoon and is now officially a toddler. I expect all my stuff will be knackered by this time next week....
and remember that everything in your collection is nothing compared to your child and how you love them.
Urulókë is right here - this was already true of my cats (I'd burn every book I have willingly to get an extra year with my 19 yr old cat), and is doubly true of my boy. Books are fun to collect, but at the end of the day they are just "stuff".